Nowadays people misunderstood Love with Selfishness...
If we love something or someone most of the time we like them because it meets our criteria of things to be loved...
We demand things to be like what we want things to be, in order to be loved by us...
We forgot that love is not act of selfishness in fact love is selfless, unselfish act...
If we try to change the nature of things or people that we 'love' than it is not LOVE...
We can encourage them to be the best version of their selves but if they can not change we will still love them because we love them even before we have the idea of what they can be...
But who am i to judge... Me myself often act like that...
I said i love something but in fact i have this silly ideas of what they suppose to be to meet my requirements of love...
We tend to change things change people rather than accepting things and feel satisfied for what we have...
Note to my future self...
Love unconditionally... It is hard but worth to try...
Di suatu siang yang sangat biasa di kantor tercinta. Pas lirik ke samping dispenser saya tidak sengaja melihat timbangan badan yang sudah lama terlupakan orang kantor.
Iseng-iseng coba timbang badan.
Whaaaaatt???
Seperti petir menggelegar dan badai bergemuruh seakan tidak percaya dimana si jarum skala berlabuh.
70 Kg… Pas gak pake nawar.
Aduuhhhh Gusti…. Apa yang sudah ku lakukan selama ini??? Batin saya membela diri.
Sekali waktu saya pernah mengingatkan seorang teman untuk menjaga kesehatan. Ini saya lakukan semata karena merasa ini kewajiban saya sebagai teman. Dan seperti yang saya duga jawabannya adalah
"MYOB"
Sebenarnya saya sudah tahu jawabannya pasti seperti ini. Karena sedikit banyak saya sudah tahu sifatnya. Tapi entah kenapa masih saja saya 'lancang' mengungkapkan apa yang saya anggap sebagai kepedulian seorang teman.
Di dunia yang semakin membatasi ruang-ruang privasi kita ini, orang menjadi semakin sensitif dengan hal-hal yang mereka anggap sebagai privasi mereka. Sehingga sebisa mungkin tidak ada yang boleh mengganggu kehidupan mereka bahkan jika gangguan itu datang dari orang-orang yang sebenarnya peduli dengan mereka. Kepedulian keluarga, sahabat, teman dan orang-orang terdekat, sering dianggap sebagai pelanggaran terhadap kebebasan kita bertindak, berpikir, dan bersosialisasi.
Yaah...
Entahlah...
Mungkin saya akan lebih hati-hati lagi dari sekarang...
Lebih baik tidak peduli dan mengurus urusan saya sendiri, daripada buang-buang energi mengurusi sesuatu yang bahkan tidak ada gunanya buat saya. Dalam kasus saya, toh saya tidak dapat apa-apa dengan mengingatkan dia untuk lebih sayang diri.
This is the last time...
Mind Your Own Bussines... Let other clean their shit...
Jika kamu punya makanan di kulkasmu, pakaian dipunggungmu, atap di atas kepalamu, dan tempat untuk tidur, kamu lebih kaya daripada 75% penduduk di dunia.
Jika kamu memiliki uang di bank, di dalam dompetmu, dan recehan uang kembalian, maka kamu ada diantara 8% orang-orang kaya di dunia.
Jika anda bangun pagi ini dengan lebih sehat daripada sakit, anda lebih terberkati daripada jutaan orang yang mungkin tidak akan selamat minggu ini.
Jika anda tidak pernah mengalami bahaya perang, penderitaan penjara dan siksaan, atau perihnya kelaparan yang mengerikan, anda lebih beruntung daripada 500 juta orang yang hidup dan menderita.
Jika anda bisa membaca pesan ini, anda lebih beruntung daripada 3 miliar orang di dunia yang tidak bisa sama sekali membacanya.
So....
Masih merasa anda orang yang paling tidak beruntung di dunia????
Manusia akan tumbuh menua baik itu sesuatu yang kita kehendaki ataupun sesuatu yang mati-matian kita hindari dengan berbagai cara. Mulai dari kosmetik, olahraga, suplemen, makan buah dan sayur dan lain lain. Toh semua usaha itu hanya usaha memperlambat gurat-gurat usia di wajah atau pada penampilan fisik.
Bertumbuh, menjadi dewasa, menua dan akhirnya mati. Sudah begitu siklusnya. Yang membuat hal itu berbeda adalah bagaimana kita memberi arti pada setiap tahapan proses tersebut, dan tidak membiarkan satu prosespun berlalu tanpa meninggalkan makna.
Hidup itu berat...Tidak bisa disangkal...
Masalah...
Kata tersebut menjadi momok yang membuat hidup menjadi berat...
Penyakit, kebutuhan hidup, hubungan, cita-cita dan obsesi, semua hal bisa menjadi Masalah.
Semua kesenjangan antara harapan dan kenyataan adalah Masalah.
Ketika kita berharap hari ini kita bisa bangun pukul 6 tetapi kenyataannya kita terbangun pukul 8 maka itu menjadi masalah bagi kita...
Ketika kita berharap berat badan kita 50 Kg namun ketika ditimbang ternyata 65 Kg maka akan menyebabkan masalah bagi kita...
Ketika hidup kita baik-baik saja tanpa masalah dan ada orang berkata "It is calm and peaceful before the storm hit."... and u start worrying things that not even happen or will never happen indeed...
Baru saja beberapa jam sebelumnya aku dan teman sekamarku membahas tentang hal-hal aneh menyangkut a mysterious thing called relationship...love and other drugs...not really associated with Anne Hathaway movie...
Ketika menjelajahi blog-blog yang aku follow aku menemukan sebuah artikel yang lucu...
NOT THE MARRYING TYPE...
Sebenarnya yang menarik bukan isi dari artikel tersebut yang pada intinya menyarankan dengan garis bawah dan tercetak tebal agar para wanita jangan bersifat terlalu "pushy" dengan memaksa kekasihnya untuk membawa suatu hubungan pada jenjang pernikahan ketika sang pria dengan jelas-jelas memproklamirkan bahwa HE'S NOT A MARRYING TYPE....Pada akhirnya bukan pria yang sempurna untuk dijadikan pasangan seumur hidup yang mereka dapatkan tetapi bocah tua yang akan tetap menjadi bocah tak peduli seberapa dewasanya usia mereka.
Kadang-kadang aku berpikir si penulis ini pasti seorang pria yang berpura-pura memyamar menjadi wanita (karena konon si penulis yang penasehat pernikahan, adalah seorang wanita) untuk menciptakan sosok wanita yang sesuai dengan harapan para pria.
Just me and my silly thought....
Back to the real point...
Yang saya maksudkan adalah...ehhmmm.. (membersihkan tenggorokan)...
"Pemenang harus bergaul dengan pemenang" Zig Ziglar
Saya teringat dengan cerita seorang senior tentang harga Coca Cola. Coca Cola dengan ukuran dan kemasan yang sama dapat jauh lebih mahal harganya jika dijual di Hotel Berbintang dibandingkan dengan yang dijual di pinggir jalan atau di warung-warung kecil. Yang membuat dia berbeda adalah tempat dia dijual.
While waiting for my writing mood in its hibernate season, i'll try posting some stuff i found while i was wandering around....
Ada seseorang saat melamar kerja, memungut sampah
kertas di lantai ke dalam tong sampah, dan hal itu terlihat oleh
peng-interview, dan dia mendapatkan pekerjaan tersebut.
* Ternyata untuk memperoleh penghargaan sangat mudah, cukup memelihara kebiasaan yang baik.
People [or yourself] will tell u to move on when they [or you] think that u are too stuck in the past. Particularly when the past is hurting u.
Stuck in the past will hold u from looking at bright future.
Each of us has our own way to move on.
Some just let go and keep them as lesson. Some hate them to the bone and will not stop feel hurt and finally except the pain as a part of their life and let time heals the pain. Some other people take revenge as another way to move on.
U can share yours in the comment box later...
Here are my suggestion to moving on from a heartbreak...
Remove everything that reminds u of him/her.
Keeping memories even if its a good one will lead u to opening the heartbreaking chapter.
Removing them will make u easier to forget. Some 'brave' people will accuse u to run from problem. But don't worry. Yes, we are running but if we walk then the past will catch us and it will be harder to move on. It's okay to run. The winners are those who run faster than others right???So why should we feel ashamed to run???The winners do that. The whiners don't. It's our choice.
If u can't completely remove them, at least try to keep your distance. In case of person who we can not remove -unless u want to end up in jail, lol- keep your distance will be better. Sometimes moving on from an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend means don't hang out with his/ her friends for a while. Those people sometime in or not in purpose will remind u to those 'memories'.
We are running..undeniable..but we run until we are strong enough to face the past..We are helping time to do its healing process faster.
Talk to your best friend about your bad experience only at the beginning. But not talking about it after u decide to enter the removing process.
Last but not least...Try to avoid watching romance movies...Choose to watch Horror movies instead... lol..
This posting is meant to help those to want to move on as another alternatives...Another suggestion are welcome...
yang gak punya musuh silahkan angkat kaki eh angkat tangan..sepertinya semua punya musuh yah??
Bahkan ada yang sangking gak ada yang bisa dimusuhi malah memusuhi diri sendiri...lol....
Om Mario Teguh bilang, tapi sepertinya juga dikutip dari ungkapan seseorang yang lebih dulu menjadi bijak dari si Om.
"Aku tidak punya banyak waktu untuk mengurusi orang yang membenciku karena terlalu sibuk mengurus orang yang mencintaiku"
but...
admit it...
pada satu titik atau mungkin titik-titik pasti kita termasuk golongan orang-orang yang gak bisa berpura-pura tidak peduli dengan orang yang gak suka dengan kita...
marah...ngomel-ngomel di dalam maupun luar hati....merupakan bukti bahwa kita tidak bisa mengacuhkan para pembenci kita....
suka atau tidak kita peduli dengan pendapat mereka....
Walaupun kepedulian kita mungkin sebatas "Hey you!!!What's your problem???"..lol...
But in the end of the day, or in my case, in the end of this posting, why should we bother???
There will always be haters no matter how nice we are....
And sometimes we become those haters...in or not in purpose....
So...
in case someone hates u for being u....just tell them....
hahahahha....
And don't be surprise if u hear the same expression when u become haters...
"We don't have enough time to please everyone so don't waste your time by being unpleasant person either...."
Keep become blessing.....And don't stop learning...
"Rapunzel mengajarkan kita sesuatu tentang hidup. Mendaki menara tertinggi menjadi tidak begitu sulit jika seseorang di puncak menara memberikan alasan bagimu untuk bertahan"
= NN
I found this when i was wondering around friends' blogs.
Interesting isn't it??
Semua orang butuh alasan. Walaupun terlalu banyak alasan alias suka ngeles itu gak bagus sih.
Alasan....tidak selalu harus seseorang...
kadang alasan itu adalah sesuatu...hahahah...sori ini bukan sesuatu ala si teteh lebay itu...
ooppss...don't blame me for not being her biggest fan...
Sesuatu itu membuat kita tetap memanjat walaupun seringkali keringat dan kelelahan membuat kita meluncur ke bawah beberapa cm atau mungkin beberapa meter dalam upaya pendakian kita.
Walaupun kita sadar...Ain't about how fast we get there. Ain't about what's waiting on the other side or upper side. It's the climb that's important. Yes...i quoted it fromThe climb lyrics by Miley Cyrus. lol...
but...
The climb can't make us hold on....It can not be the reason for us to keep moving... But something that waiting up there it helps us to keep pushing forward. It keep us from falling to deep. It holds us from slip and unable to climb up. It reminds us not to give up.
The climb is important. In fact it's the most important thing. But the reason to climb that's what give us strength.
Each of us have our own tower to climb.
Mimpi, cita-cita, obsesi, hubungan, pekerjaan. dan apa saja... Kadang hal-hal kecil yang kita anggap sepele pun bisa saja merupakan menara-menara kecil yang sedang kita panjat.
Untuk berhasil memanjat hingga puncak, tetap fokus pada alasan kenapa kita memanjat.
Diri sendiri, keluarga, our special one, people we respect or love... and bunch of other reasons yang hanya kita sendiri yang tahu...
"Eyes on the prize"
Climbing will be easier...The process will be less tiring and enjoyable...
Yesss...Salah satu lagu paling sering dimainkan di Guitar Hero... Tidak ada survey yang mendukung sih. hehehehe... Tapi yang pernah dengar pasti setuju kalo lagu ini keren...
So, beberapa hari browsing dengan hasil yang nihil, eh malah teman yang lagi browsing YouTube yang ketemu.
hahahahhaah...
Kalo jodoh emang gak lari kemana yah....
Judul asli lagunya sih Canon karya Pachelbel. Untuk yang mau tahu lebih lengkapnya silahkan di cek disini .
Nah mengenai yang main Canon versi rock di video ini namanya Sungha Jung. Selengkapnya tentang profil si Sungha Jung yang keren dan sangat berbakat ini silahkan dilihat disini atau silahkan subscribe di channel YouTube nya disini ...Kamu juga bisa follow twitter nya.
TAKE TIME TO READ. It's worth reading it. Trust me :)
Professor : You are a Christian, aren’t you, son ? Student : Yes, sir.
Professor: So, you believe in GOD ?
Student : Absolutely, sir.
Professor : Is GOD good ?
Student : Sure.
Professor: Is GOD all powerful ?
Student : Yes.
Professor: My brother died of cancer even though he prayed to GOD to
heal him. Most of us would attempt to help others who are ill. But GOD
didn’t. How is this GOD good then? Hmm?
(Student was silent.)
Professor: You can’t answer, can you ? Let’s start again, young fella. Is GOD good?
Student : Yes.
Professor: Is satan good ?
Student : No.
Professor: Where does satan come from ?
Student : From … GOD …
Professor: That’s right. Tell me son, is there evil in this world?
Student : Yes.
Professor: Evil is everywhere, isn’t it ? And GOD did make everything. Correct?
Student : Yes.
Professor: So who created evil ?
(Student did not answer.)
Professor: Is there sickness? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All these terrible things exist in the world, don’t they?
Student : Yes, sir.
Professor: So, who created them ?
(Student had no answer.)
Professor: Science says you have 5 Senses you use to identify and
observe the world around you. Tell me, son, have you ever seen GOD?
Student : No, sir.
Professor: Tell us if you have ever heard your GOD?
Student : No , sir.
Professor: Have you ever felt your GOD, tasted your GOD, smelt your
GOD? Have you ever had any sensory perception of GOD for that matter?
Student : No, sir. I’m afraid I haven’t.
Professor: Yet you still believe in Him?
Student : Yes.
Professor : According to Empirical, Testable, Demonstrable Protocol,
Science says your GOD doesn’t exist. What do you say to that, son?
Student : Nothing. I only have my faith.
Professor: Yes, faith. And that is the problem Science has.
Student : Professor, is there such a thing as heat?
Professor: Yes.
Student : And is there such a thing as cold?
Professor: Yes.
Student : No, sir. There isn’t.
(The lecture theater became very quiet with this turn of events.)
Student : Sir, you can have lots of heat, even more heat, superheat,
mega heat, white heat, a little heat or no heat. But we don’t have
anything called cold. We can hit 458 degrees below zero which is no
heat, but we can’t go any further after that. There is no such thing as
cold. Cold is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. We
cannot measure cold. Heat is energy. Cold is not the opposite of heat,
sir, just the absence of it.
(There was pin-drop silence in the lecture theater.)
Student : What about darkness, Professor? Is there such a thing as darkness?
Professor: Yes. What is night if there isn’t darkness?
Student : You’re wrong again, sir. Darkness is the absence of
something. You can have low light, normal light, bright light, flashing
light. But if you have no light constantly, you have nothing and its
called darkness, isn’t it? In reality, darkness isn’t. If it is, well
you would be able to make darkness darker, wouldn’t you?
Professor: So what is the point you are making, young man ?
Student : Sir, my point is your philosophical premise is flawed.
Professor: Flawed ? Can you explain how?
Student : Sir, you are working on the premise of duality. You argue
there is life and then there is death, a good GOD and a bad GOD. You are
viewing the concept of GOD as something finite, something we can
measure. Sir, Science can’t even explain a thought. It uses electricity
and magnetism, but has never seen, much less fully understood either
one. To view death as the opposite of life is to be ignorant of the fact
that death cannot exist as a substantive thing.
Death is not
the opposite of life: just the absence of it. Now tell me, Professor, do
you teach your students that they evolved from a monkey?
Professor: If you are referring to the natural evolutionary process, yes, of course, I do.
Student : Have you ever observed evolution with your own eyes, sir?
(The Professor shook his head with a smile, beginning to realize where the argument was going.)
Student : Since no one has ever observed the process of evolution at
work and cannot even prove that this process is an on-going endeavor.
Are you not teaching your opinion, sir? Are you not a scientist but a
preacher?
(The class was in uproar.)
Student : Is there anyone in the class who has ever seen the Professor’s brain?
(The class broke out into laughter. )
Student : Is there anyone here who has ever heard the Professor’s
brain, felt it, touched or smelt it? No one appears to have done so. So,
according to the established Rules of Empirical, Stable, Demonstrable
Protocol, Science says that you have no brain, sir. With all due
respect, sir, how do we then trust your lectures, sir?
(The room was silent. The Professor stared at the student, his face unfathomable.)
Professor: I guess you’ll have to take them on faith, son.
Student : That is it sir … Exactly ! The link between man & GOD is FAITH. That is all that keeps things alive and moving.
P.S.
I believe you have enjoyed the conversation. And if so, you’ll probably
want your friends / colleagues to enjoy the same, won’t you?
Forward this to increase their knowledge … or FAITH.
By the way, that student was EINSTEIN.
Posting ini dibagikan oleh seorang teman di Facebook. Ada beberapa versi cerita seperti ini tapi tidak ada salahnya untuk berbagi, bukan??
Ilmu Pengetahuan seharusnya digunakan untuk mendukung Iman, bukan untuk menentang Iman.
Ilmu Pengetahuan tanpa iman akan menjadi berbahaya bagi manusia. Ilmu Pengetahuan yang merusak gunanya apa coba???
Too much drama makes you think that your life is as simple as typical drama... Especially Korean Drama... i love them btw :D
